The divorce rate was very low in the old days because divorce would have meant tragedy for women in humans’ society. Today, the divorce rate has increased. People’s senses of value have changed a lot in a surprisingly short time. Divorce is no longer a social taboo. People who got divorced once, twice or more are not an uncommon thing recently. Many couples ponder these days whether they should live together before marriage or not. Should couples live together before marriage? At present, couples should live together before getting married.
Couples have fights, quarrels, and divorce. Many grounds for the fights, quarrels, and divorces are from differences of each other’s sense of values, so living together before marriage sounds like a great idea of getting acquainted with each other’s sense of value. However, it is impossible to know the difference of sense of values to childcare during the cohabitation period. It is possible to know if only after the child is born after the marriage. Cohabitation is meaningless in this respect.
It is often said that couples in cohabitation will miss the timing of having one’s name registered. Sometimes, cohabitation erases the couples’ desire for marriage. Nothing changes after all because the only thing that would change is the one slip of paper. People even tend to think they should submit the engagement report. “Living together doesn’t necessarily lead to marriage. After five to seven years, 21 percent of most cohabiting couples are still doing just that – cohabiting, without getting married.” said Researchers David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead in a new study of the national marriage project at the Rutgers University.
On the other hand, there are also positive reasons why couples should live together before marriage. If living with someone before getting married makes a person realize that it would be a bad idea to marry their live-in partner, and then a future divorce can be avoided. People only have to separate if cohabiting is not going well. If people want to separate after getting married, they have to think legally and socially.
The vision in the future comes into view clearly when cohabiting. It is possible to think about the relation between two people more realistically like financially. Joseph M. Champlin says in the article: Cohabitation before marriage, that “Saving for a house, anticipating babies and providing for their children’s future college education now become more pressing issues.” Couples need to think about their future more realistically by cohabiting. Marriage can be practiced.
Taking these reasons into consideration, it is better for couples to live together before marriage. It is beneficial for couples to do cohabitation if marriage is the premise to them. Families will understand their child’s seriousness and follow them behind with their eyes.
Works Cited
Rutgers University Researchers David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead. “The National Marriage Project”
.Joseph M. Champlin. “Cohabitation before marriage” 1996-2008 American Catholic.org
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